Attachment Informed Grief Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide to Foundations and Applications, explains how advances in attachment theory and neuroscience research have the potential to deepen our understanding of grief and strengthen our work with bereaved individuals. This fully
updated 2nd edition includes case vignettes and discussion of attachment informed interventions designed to make the book a practical reference for educators, researchers and clinicians of varying theoretical orientations.


"Synthesizing developmental psychology, traumatology, thanatology, neuroscience and therapy research, Kosminsky and Jordan brilliantly elucidate the mourner’s experience and needs...

Therese Rando,PhD, Founder and Clinical Director, The Institute for the Study of Treatment and Loss

Practical and cutting edge, this book makes a revolutionary contribution and will become required reading for those working with loss of all kinds."


"Attachment Informed Grief Therapy is a fascinating book! Kosminsky and Jordan wrote a scientifically sound, clinically innovative, well-argued, and extremely informative volume.

Mario Mikulincer, Professor of Psychology, Baruch Ivcher School of Psychology, Reichman University

The authors show how insights from attachment theory and neuroscience are the keys that unlock the puzzle of healthy and disordered grief responses, and how, through understanding unmet attachment needs, attachment-related emotions and defenses, and the broaden-and-build repercussions of attachment security, grief therapists can help bereaved clients to manage their grief reactions and to find ways to move forward."

"The 2nd edition of this important volume is a valuable resource for clinicians and researchers alike.  Updating, expanding and deepening their understanding of the interface between attachment styles and the processing of bereavement, Kosminsky and Jordan’s integration of new findings from neuroscience adds an important dimension to their overview.

Simon Shimshon Rubin, PhD., Director of the International Laboratory for the Study of Loss, Bereavement and Human Resilience at the University of Haifa in Israel and co-author of Working with the Bereaved: Multiple Lenses on Loss and mourning.

The ample clinical material included is accompanied by rich and thoughtful consideration of the cases at hand. Accompanying these exemplary clinicians as they weave together theory, research and practice on bereavement will enrich the therapeutic encounter for therapists at all stages of their professional development.

"In this remarkable revision of their ground-breaking volume, Phyllis Kosminsky and Jack Jordan penetrate still more profoundly into the developmental, interpersonal and intersubjective neurobiological underpinnings of attachment that give rise and form to all grief.

Mario Mikulincer, Professor of Psychology, Baruch Ivcher School of Psychology, Reichman University

More than a compendium of clinical wisdom and contemporary theory and research, Attachment-Informed Grief Therapy provides resonant insights and concrete principles for helping clients read the deep text of their own needs in the wake of loss.  Equally, it instructs the reader in how to become the secure base that allows survivors to integrate the rupture and realign the bond with a significant other who is present even in absence.  I, for one, am a better therapist and companion to those who mourn for the gift of their vision.


In Getting Back to Life When Grief Won't Heal, you'll find a path through your grief when you read the intimate stories of people who managed to do the same. You'll find real inspiration, invaluable insight and deeply felt advice. You'll learn that yes, there is hope; and that with time, you can let go of the overwhelming sense of loss and embrace life again.

Kosminsky, P. (2023). Attachment Informed Grief Therapy. In: Steffen, E., Milman, E. & Neimeyer, R. (eds.), 2nd ed. The Handbook of Grief Therapies. New York: Sage.

Worden, W., Kosminsky, P., Carverhill, P. (2022). Foundational Grief Theories. In: Handbook of Thanatology, 3rd ed. Association for Death Education and Counseling.

Kosminsky, P. (2021). “ Bruce Wayne, Batman and Attachment Informed Grief Work.” In: Harrington, J. and Neimeyer, R. , Superhero Grief: The Transformative Power of Loss. New York: Routledge.

Kosminsky, P. “From Theory to Practice and Back Again: A Personal Perspective on Grief and Bereavement in a Changing World.” Grief Matters: The Australian Journal of Grief and Bereavement, Fall, 2020.

2020- present


Kosminsky, P. (2012). Mapping the Terrain of Loss: Grief and Not-Grief. In: Neimeyer, R. (ed.) Techniques of Grief Therapy. New York: Routledge, spring 2012.

Kosminsky,P., and McDevitt, R. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. In: Neimeyer, R. (ed.) Techniques of Grief Therapy. New York: Routledge, spring 2012.

Kosminsky, P. (2011): From Here to Eternity: How the Bereaved Maintain Connections to Lost Loved Ones and Why it Matters. Death Studies, 35:6, 595-565.

Kosminsky,P. (2010): “Loss of Functionality: Traumatic Brain Injury.” In: Darcy Harris, (ed.)., Counting Our Losses: Reflecting on Change, Loss, and Transition in Everyday Life New York: Routledge, 2010.

Kosminsky,P., and Lewin,D. 2009 “Counseling Approaches Aimed at Bereaved Adolescents” In: Corr, S. and Balk, D. (eds.), Handbook of Adolescent Death and Bereavement. New York: Springer Publishing.

Kosminsky, P. (2007). Getting Back to Life When Grief Won’t Heal. New York: New York.

With William Zangwill and Jessica Pearson: “Eye Movement Desensitatization and Reprocessing (EMDR)”. In: Shannon, S. (ed.), Handbook of Complimentary and Alternative Therapies in Mental Health Innovation and Integration. New York: Academic Press, 2001.

2013 & PRIOR

Kosminsky, P, (2019). “Dreamscaping a Revitalized Self.” In: Gershman, N. and Thompson, B. , Prescriptive Memories in Grief and Loss: The Art of Dreamscaping. New York: Routledge. 

Kosminsky, P. (2017). “Working with Continuing Bonds from an Attachment Theoretical Perspective.” In: Klass, D. and Steffen, E. Continuing Bonds in Bereavement: New Directions for Research and Practice. (New York: Routledge).

Kosminsky, P. (2016). “Clearing cognitive obstacles to healing from loss.” Journal of Rational-Emotive Cognitive Behavior Therapy, 35.

Kosminsky, P. and Jordan, J. (2016). Attachment-Informed Grief Therapy: The Clinician's Guide to Foundations and Applications. Routledge: New York.

Neimeyer, R. and Kosminsky, P. (2014). “Bereavement”. In Grossman, L. and Walfish, S. Translating Psychological Research Into Practice. New York: Springer. 

Kosminsky, P. (2014). “How new insights about the brain are helping us understand attachment and loss.” Grief matters: The Australian Journal of Grief and Bereavement:17:1.

Kosminsky, P. (2014). "Coming to grief: What you need to know about grief in the DSM V." New Therapist: March/April.


"Convincing clinical illustrations are used throughout, contributing to an overall sense of two vastly experienced clinicians passing on deep theoretical and practical expertise to the next generation. Strongly recommended.”

Jeremy Holmes, M.D., University of Exeter

“This book, by two thoughtful and creative clinicians, will educate, engage, and enrich the work of therapists and those working with the bereaved. 

Judith Kay Nelson, PhD, dean emerita at the Sanville Institute for Clinical Social Work and Psychotherapy in Berkeley, California.

It is both scholarly and user friendly. A rich selection of case material illustrates practical procedures, their rationale, and clinical outcomes. The bottom line for clinicians: this book is highly relevant to your work."

"A gold mine of information that will serve the needs of new and seasoned therapists and students. It helps see clients through the lens of attachment theory and neurobiology, which adds new and powerful dimensions to our work.

Simon Shimshon Rubin, PhD, director of International Center for Study of Loss, Bereavement, and Human Resilience at University of Haifa in Israel

 The real-life examples bring information to life and allow the reader to be transported into the therapeutic setting to see how grieving clients will respond."

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